I have heard women say so many things regarding this topic. Things like: “It’s natural to look at other men” or “I’m just looking at the menu, I eat at home! And not forgetting “men do it too!” I’ve even heard one say: “I’m just admiring God’s creation.”
And so the excuses go on and on. I know of a lady who has a secret Pinterest board full of pictures of other men that she likes to look at. Some even go as far as to look at soft pornography photos of men.
Well, let’s investigate what the Word of God says and see if any of these arguments hold up to the truth of God’s Word.
You must not commit adultery (Exodus 20:14 NLT)
“But I say, anyone who even looks at another woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28 NLT)
As we can clearly see from these scriptures, it is a sin to look at and admire another man who is not your spouse. It is lust, plain and simple.
When you look at the body of another man with impure intentions it is also a form of coveting, because it doesn’t belong to you. You have your own husband. Exodus 20:17 NLT, puts it this way: “You must not covet your neighbour’s house. You must not covet your neighbour’s wife, male or female servant, ox or donkey, or anything else that belongs to your neighbour. “So in the same way it is wrong to covet someone else’s husband.
The marriage vows
Most church’s wedding vows includes some form of reference to honouring your spouse. So you have vowed to honour your husband before God. When your eye is constantly wondering, you are breaking your vows to your husband and to God, because you are definitely not honouring him then. It is greatly disrespectful to your husband and to your marriage.
Can your husband trust you?
Some of you will quickly say “yes!”, but is it really true? If your eye is always wondering and lusting after other men, how can your husband trust you? From looking, can come smiling and flirting and from flirting can come a whole range of other unwanted behaviours.
As women we don’t want our men looking at other women and we want them to remain faithful to us in heart, mind, body and soul. It is thus only right and fair that your husband should want and expect the same from you. It is a question of respect for your partner and your marriage.
As women and as mothers we are the heart of our homes. We need to realise the immense power that we hold – power to nurture and love or power to destroy. If we do anything that places our stable and happy home in jeopardy, we are to be blamed if it falls apart. Our children rely on us to help keep their home together.
The Proverbs 31 woman
In the Bible the Proverbs 31 woman is described as a woman who brings her husband good and who is a blessing to her husband. This is the kind of woman we should to aspire to be like. Let us be a blessing to our husbands – just as God intended.
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